by Suchita Ranglani
It’s funny how everyday we end up getting into a silly argument with either our best friend or our worst enemy. How we crib about the most irrelevant things. How we let the fact that our favorite donut at MOD isn’t available affect us so much. Or the fact that someone doesn’t agree with us. How we cry over spilling ketchup over our white t-shirt or complain about a coming up test or an assignment. It’s just so silly.
Below the surface, we end up forcing ourselves to live in pain, long for the past, crib about what we do and do not have. We sympathize with ourselves, with our “pain”. With the apparent ‘shattered’ state we are in. Blame others for the mess in our lives. Try to change ‘their’ view and in the bargain lose our minds. Get angry with ‘them’ because apparently “they’re wrong”. Regret what we’ve already done. And unknowingly, get accustomed to the depression. It’s just SO strange.
What we don’t realize that the ‘shattered’ state claim to be in is our own choice. We have put ourselves there, by focusing on everything that is supposedly ‘wrong’.
It’s rare that we take time off to look at the things we DO have. It’s really silly how our thinking works in the opposite direction. We count our problems every second of the day. Make mountains out of molehills. Make the tiniest situations take over our entire life and give needless importance to the most irrelevant things. We spend every minute of the day thinking about what someone else may be thinking about us. We get stressed over the most inexplicable situations. And how often do we strive to improve it? Three out of ten times?
We give all the importance in the world to what other people think. Let them be the deciders of who we are. Let their opinion matter more than ours. Literally, throw the hold and power we have on our own selves and hand it over to the rest of the world. And in the end, continue victimizing our own selves and blaming them. For what?
What we forget in the bargain is the fact that in spite of the apparent ‘imperfection’, in spite of the ‘chaos’, ‘drama’, ‘nonsense’ there’s so much we have. SO much we ought to be thankful for.
But all we do instead is be greedy for more. And in this transaction, forget that we still have so much.
Remember the last time, you thanked our earth? Or the last time you thanked the Universe for your mom, for your dad, for your brother, your sister…your dog? Your friends? For the fact that you live in a beautiful home? Or for the fact that you at least have a home. The fact that you have incarnated on this planet ? The fact that you have people who love you? The fact that your family loves you? The fact that you’ve been blessed to live a life of joy and happiness. The fact that you’ve been through things that may have seemed traumatic and hard, but at the end of it made you the person you are today? The fact that all those experiences may have put you down but were all learning experiences that made you stronger.
The fact that as many “mistakes” we may have made, we are still here today, which means that once a while we do things right as well. How do we always forget that whatever comes our way, a problem big or small it’s not the end of the world. That everything is taken care of. We focus all our energy on what’s wrong and forget the other side, the upside. We forget to smile, to laugh, to be grateful.
And, in spite of society branding us as right or wrong, how often is it that we choose what’s right for us and not right by the standards of society? Think, and be aware.
An experience. A person. A day. A night. A city. A place. A feeling. There’s always something to smile about. Wherever you are, whatever you do.
And the minute we remember that, nothing can keep us from being a tad bit happier than we may already be.
Nothing. : )
The fact that as many “mistakes” we may have made, we are still here today, which means that once a while we do things right as well. - Loved this bit :)
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